Only ' You' and not anyone else...

Most of us, we make complaints to others about the people or situations which trouble us, with an unsaid and mostly unacknowledged wish that others will resolve our issues or will take us out of our problems. Its very human, one of the most basic human tendencies. I am not saying its right or wrong but I would definitely say that its unhealthy for our own growth.

We should remember one fact that no one else will rescue us from our problems. Only we have to take efforts to get rid of our issues. When we will approach people for help,they will extend the help but we should be in a position to receive the help. We say it in Marathi - "देणारे देतात. घेणाऱ्याने घेतल पाहिजे." Its one of the essential truths of life. Teacher teaches but a student should learn. If he doesn't learn then the teaching is a sheer waste of time,efforts and energy. Isn't it?

If you visit even few of most popular theories in Psychology, you will see theorists saying that we should take up charge of our lives. We should take responsibility of our life. What do they mean by 'taking responsibility of life' here? They simply mean 'taking responsibility of our thoughts, emotions and actions'. If we control our thoughts, we can eventually control our emotions and actions. This is the simple truth which we need to learn and absorb in our system.

We need to learn and understand that the God also helps them only who are ready to help themselves. He doesn't help those who don't want to help themselves.

You may be feeling very lazy and lethargic, you may be feeling trapped in blue emotions,you may be feeling very tired due to ongoing life issues,you may be very confused about your life and so on... Let it be anything... At every single moment of life, we need to remember only one thing that only 'we can help ourselves and no one else'. People may light a lamp for you while walking on a dark path but you yourself need to open your eyes throughout walking to get benefit of that lamp. Here if you yourself keep your eyes closed, no one can help you in anyway. This basic we need to understand and execute in our life.

So don't think too hard. Just understand the essence of life - You are the biggest help of yours. You have all that required energy and power to resolve your every issue. So before asking for help outside, first turn inside and see that immense power, feel it, realise it which is right there to uplift you...

Have a thoughtful day.

Take care

- Dipti S. A. Shinde      

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