दिप्ती.कथन (Dipti.Kathan)

I remember myself being asked in my childhood - What you want to become in future? And I used to say - Teacher. Everyone of us had some responses ready on this question in our childhood. Some used to say 'Doctor', some used to say 'Engineer', some used to say 'Pilot' and so on. Now when I look back, I have this question - In such a small age, how were we be able to give such answers when we had no enough idea about being a teacher, a doctor, an engineer or a pilot. In my case I used to say 'teacher' beacuse I had been watching my mother being a schoolteacher. And in childhood in that particular age, for a girl, her mother is a one with whom she can identify so she, a mother becomes a role model for a daughter. In my case it happened same. Now also if someone asks me what do you aspire to become, I would say 'a teacher'. It's exactly what has been documented by Social Learning theorist, Albert Bandura, A phenomenon of 'Observational lear

"India is my country. All Indians are my brothers and sisters " Remember we saying this everyday in our schooldays? Of course you remember. People belonging to various religions, castes, sub casts, socioeconomic strata live in India. Consequently our languages are also different. It's a country where all live with love and peace though sometimes we experience conflict resulting from this diversity. My nationalism says that we should respect every religion, every caste in India. Not only I but I think most of us, we believe in this. But do we all follow this? Recently I came across one person who was requested to greet by saying 'Namaste' or 'Namaskar' while taking one video for some official work. But he was not ready to say 'Namste' or 'Namaskar'. While being asked about this, he said "Sir didn't you look at the 'Religion' in my form? But the same person was ready to say 'Hello'. I found it strange. He was ready

Whenever I used to hear the shloka  'कर्मण्येवाधिकारस्ते मा फलेषु कदाचन' in my childhood, I used to think - Won't be it useless if we keep on acting without keeping a target, without thinking of a reward? But later when I really came to know the real meaning of this shloka, I was deeply mesmerised by the it. What a beautiful statement! We really should give up the desire to get something in return when we act. But sometimes people confuse this statement with 'having no goals and target in out life'. I give you two scenarios. In one, student is preparing for his final exam wholeheartedly. He has set a target to achieve distinction. In second scenario, there is an employee who always praise his supervisor/immediate boss so that he/she will be lenient while appraising this employee's performance. Above mentioned Bhagvadgita Shloka is in reference with second scenario. Most of us are attached with the 'Karmfal'. We always want something in return when we

Nihar was upset. He didn't score good in his semester exam. He was very sad. Phenomenally observant mother observed this. She broke the silence. "What happened Nihar?" Mother knew the reason but she still asked. " Nothing." "What nothing. You look so down. Tell me." "I got less marks in my exams. I didn't expect this." "Hm." "That's why my mood is down." "Don't take me wrong or don't feel that I am criticising you but just tell me frankly. Had you prepared enough for your exams?" Nihar got surprised with question and got trapped in reflective thoughts. Within few seconds, he replied, "No. I didn't prepare enough." " Hm. Right. So then what's the point in becoming sad? You didn't fought for what you wanted then how can you expect victory?" Nihar started contemplating... Isn't it a case with most of us? First most of us, we don't know what we want i

Believe me it's all about your perspective. A same glass can be half empty for some, half full for some and refillable for remaining ones. A same situation can be perceived as threatening or challenging. A same response/feedback can be taken as source of discouragement or a source of stimulation/motivation. It's all in your head. Really. It's only there in your head. It's totally up to you whether to pick positive or negative. The person who sees positive in everything will always win in every situation. He will have control over his surroundings and not vice a versa. Isn't it a situation which everyone would like to experience? Of course it is. Everyone likes to have control over his surroundings. If they really wish so, they should know how to filter and how to take positive from everything. The person who finds negative in everything, who always blames others and situations in his life, will be always blaming. He won't be able to get control over his situat

I might not have travelled much in my life but I know what it feels like. When I go to my native place, I found myself lost in many small small things. Flowing river catches my attention. It shows me how to flow. Not matter what comes in the way. That transparent, pure water teaches me how to find a way even when there are some black, hard stones and rocks. It says - 'Will will find a way'. Such a beautiful and insightful lesson it teaches to us! Those beautiful ,green trees teach me how to reach high but still staying grounded. Trees don't forget their roots even when they grow tall. They themselves stand in intense sunlight but offer cool shadow to the travellers. Aren't these trees telling us something? Of course they are. We should hear and listen to them. Those big, greeny mountains and hills... Are they whispering something? certainly. They inspire us to reach high, to reach the sky and still remaining stable, unshakable. They are big and strong and appear rock

Relationships are beautiful part of human life. They provide comfort, sense of belongingness, affection ,confidence and the most important 'love'. I am not talking about just interpersonal relationships. I am also talking about intrapersonal relationship, yes the one with the self. If you are happy being with the self, you need nothing more. When you start getting all those things from yourself only which generally we receive from others, you become emotionally independent. I have seen some people who have good intrapersonal relationships and also have seen some who have both , good intra as well as good interpersonal relationships. People who have good connection with the self, are more confident,self driven, emotionally and cognitively independent, transparent and honest still modest, humble... They carry some charm with them. People get easily influenced by such people. What can we do to be more in connection with the self? Spend time with the self, be self confident, be

Love and Be Love I read it on Facebook I guess some time back - Whats the difference between ' Liking' and 'Love'?  And the given answer was - When you pluck your favourite flower, you like the flower and when you water the plant of your favourite flower, you love it. Bang on! Liking, lust, infatuation are associated with the feelings of possession, power over possessed object/person but 'Love' is associated with the 'tendency to give and just give'. Love needs compromises, sacrifices. And people in love dont mind offering that. They love to compromise and sacrifice for the person/object they love. I have seen people who claim that they love but they still fight with each other constantly on small small issues resulting from 'Ego'. And I have also seen those people who just dont fight... I mean it. They just dont fight ( Here I am talking about Ego-driven fights). Dont they possess Ego? They definitely possess it but they give more importa