दिप्ती.कथन (Dipti.Kathan)

I remember a dialogue from one Hindi movie, "Mard ko dard nahi hota". Whenever I hear this sentence, the very first question comes to my mind is, does a dialogue writer want to convey that Men are not human beings. He definitely wants to consider men either superhuman or a stone? Whatever it is? But is it right? After contemplating a lot I got an answer that 'it's not right'. Simply beacuse by stating this we are taking away men's right to be human, to be sensitive, to be emotional. Isn't it? I guess some advertisement used to come on television where a mother asks her crying son," Are you a girl to cry like this? ". Whatever would be the situation,is making such statement a sensitive enough? I find it very inhuman, insensitive and discriminating statement. What such 'THINKERS' (So called) want to convey? They definitely want to portray that a man is NATURALLY strong and so he shouldn't cry. Such people are imbibing in men that bein

I was just scrolling down my Facebook page and I happened to look at a post - 'Having soulmate is not about only having love. You can find it in your friend too.' Such a beautiful but highly ignored reality! Some people believe that their boyfriend/girlfriend is only their soulmate. Those who don't have lover think that their to-be husband/wife only will be their  soulmate. But some of them definitely feel that if they would have waited a little long, they could have met the one whom they were looking for. Well, But what do we mean by soulmate?  I think soulmate is one with whom you can share your all the thoughts, emotions, opinions, beliefs, perceptions without being hesitant. It's a place where you feel safe, protected, special,gifted and thankful. You love that person, you believe in him/her. You respect, you adore that person from depth of your heart. You feel like singing together, dancing together. You feel energetic, positive, motivated when you are with him

" I found in my research that the biggest reason people aren't more self- compassionate is that they are afraid they will become self-indulgent. They believe self-criticism is what keeps them in line. Most people have gotten it wrong beacuse our culture says being hard on yourself is the way to be." - Kristen Neff This is a qoute I came across online while reading about self-esteem for some office work. And I said - "bang on" in my mind. Isn't it a case with many of us? ( Specially with the women) Why do we confuse self-esteem with arrogance or pride or narcisam ( Though high level of self-esteem results in nothing but them )?  Is knowing own strengths, abilities, powers and believing in them, a wrong? Is total and unconditional acceptance of Self and feeling good about the self is unethical? No. Not at all. Then why do we label such people who have good level of self-esteem as proud or narcist? Good level of Self-esteem is characterised by a substantial

 उर्जिताकडून आज ऑफिसमध्ये सगळे पार्टि मागत होते. का?... आज बालदिन म्हणून. तुम्हाला प्रश्न पडला असेल कि ऑफिसमध्ये काम  करणाऱ्या मुलीकडून बालदिनाची पार्टि कशासाठी? ऍक्च्युअली उर्जिता थोडी... थोडी म्हणजे बऱ्यापैकी कमी उंचीची आहे आणि तिचं वागणं बऱ्यापैकी... बर्यापैकी म्हणजे अगदीच बऱ्यापैकी लहान मुलांसारखं आहे. म्हणून तिच्याकडे आज सगळे पार्टि मागत होते. पण स्मार्ट उर्जिताने सगळ्यांची मागणी फार हुशारीने डिफ्युज करून टाकली. उर्जिता. एक मनमोकळं, निखळ व्यक्तिमत्व... लहान मुलांसारखं... जे काही असेल ते तोंडावर बोलून मोकळं होणार. कोणाची भीडभाड नाही. हा, पण ते बोलताना अदबीने बोलणार, समोरच्याचा मान राखून. कोणाला काही हवं असेल तर कशाचीही पर्वा न करता मदतीचा हात पुढे करणार. राग आला की तो पटकन व्यक्त करून मोकळं होणार पण तो नंतर मनात ठेवणार नाही. जितका पटकन तिला राग येतो तितकंच डोळ्यात पटकन पाणीही येतं. सगळ्यांमध्ये मिळून मिसळून वागणार. लोकांची थट्टा - मस्करी करणार पण कोणाला लागेल असं काही बोलणार नाही. कसं बरं जमतं वयाच्या २३ -२४ व्या वर्षीही इतकं मनमोकळं होऊन जगणं?  एकदा चित्रा, उर्जिताची कलीग

"I am sorry." Vahida politely said. "Why are you saying sorry?" Vinit asked with surprise. "Actually, I am feeling beacuse I got angry at you." "So what? You were right. I created mess in the kitchen you had cleaned with great effort in the morning. It was very natural for you to get disappointed and hence angry." " No but I shouldn't have got angry." Vahida was still apologising. " Vahi... Just chill... Don't think so much. I didn't feel bad. Rather I got happy beacuse you expressed your emotions which you had not done since we got married." Vahida smiled hesitatingly. There are many Vahida around us ( and unfortunately less number of Vinit... Huh!) Have you seen them? Or is it you only, who regret about getting angry? Yes? Oh. But why? Anger is one of the basic emotions which every human being feels some or the other time. But women have been conditioned to not show, express this emotion. They have been t